Blog 65

Primary versus Secondary Relationships

A primary relationship is one that includes your family , your close friends, your loved ones, and your significant others. A secondary relationship is one that would include peers, teachers, and bosses. Who do you consider to be your primary relationships? You can look back to elementary school days, where girls call every one their “BBF” or best friend forever. How many “best” friends could someone have? I’d like to consider my whole friend group as my best friends, because if I compare them to the rest of the people I am constantly surrounded by, they are my best friends.

I made a lot of best friends (in my interpretation) this year. You can tell if they are really good friends if you can see yourself talking to them years from now. I have multiple friends that have moved away a few years ago that I will randomly talk to. One of them even came down for a weekend to stay. The best thing is when you haven’t talked to them for ever, but when they come visit, you pick up right where the friendship left off. Just like they hadn’t left.

Also, I am weird about my relationships with teachers. Yeah, that sounds really wrong, but I try to put in my mind that they’re a primary relationship because it helps me get attached to the class…which makes me work harder. I have always tried to do this. Like last quarter, I was completely obsessed [not in an affair way] with my Chem lecturer, Dr. Zellmer. Because I introduced myself the first day and sat in the front row each time, I managed to get a pretty good grade. It works for me.